In the realm of wellness and self-care, we often hear the term *highest self* tossed around like some transcendent mythical being, always just out of reach. Spiritual guides often talk to us as if becoming our *highest self* will solve all our problems—the missing link in our journey to self-fulfillment. However, it’s through conversations with friends that I’ve started to realize that as much as we long to be our perfect selves, this very longing can be a trap. Connecting with your highest self is less about perfectionism and more about the journey, strengthening the parts of ourselves that bring fulfillment—our creativity, our ambition—and taking steps to slowly improve the parts of ourselves that need it.
But what is our highest self? In many ways, it can feel like a dream. It’s an imagined, idyllic life. Draw out the things you want for yourself—from the values you hold dearest, the way you speak, the clothes you wear, to how you see yourself in the mirror. Defining this version of yourself in detail allows you to hold tighter to the future you want, even if it changes over time. In philosophy, we talk about how with each moment of self-reflection, we change and grow, making it impossible to truly know ourselves. It’s a daunting thought. Yet, it brings us back to the core theme—the cliché that it’s not about the destination but the journey. It’s about the process of learning and growing, not who we end up being in the end.
Starting the journey can be as simple as starting to write. Mindful reflection through journaling is a powerful tool that allows you to explore your thoughts, dreams, and desires. Set aside time each morning or evening to write about what you’re grateful for, what you aspire to, and the moments when you felt most aligned with your true self. This might mean asking yourself deeper questions like *What do I value most?* or *When do I feel most alive?*
Exploring what we value most helps us live a life that’s authentic and fulfilling. By identifying core values—kindness, family, creativity, etc.—we can evaluate how our lives currently align and make small, conscious shifts toward greater authenticity and fulfillment.
By Brooke.
